Hi All, As many of you know, I have been married almost 20 years, and sometimes I find myself sharing advice with women who are just getting started on their marital journey. I am a major marriage advocate, and this week I became even more excited about sharing tips to help keeping others married longer as I debated the benefits of marriage with some naysayers. You can find your Mr. Right, and you can have a long, successful marriage if you work at it. More tips to come! Take Care & God Bless, Carolyn
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www.halfourdeen.com – Video #5 of the Muslim Marriage series by Baba Ali for the Half Our Deen project. If you enjoy this videos, please let others know about it (post it on your blog, facebook, etc..) and make sure to check out the other videos in this series. If you’re single and want to get married, check out Baba Ali’s new marriage project, Half Our Deen http **Warning: This video has generalizations. If you are “generalization-sensitive”, it would best not to watch this video. In order to make such videos, you need to be general. The reason for these videos is give men and women a better understanding of how the opposite gender communicates. Of course there are exceptions to every rule. If you’re single and looking, make sure to sign up on Baba Ali’s PRIVATE Muslim Matchmaking site www.halfourdeen.com
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pragmatic24 says:
May 31, 2012 at 10:33 am (UTC 0)
Learn to get to the point please. This is actually something men hate about women.
diadennyx says:
May 31, 2012 at 11:08 am (UTC 0)
first she s talking about put stuff in your hair and having babies now she is saying god bless you i mean did sneeze for you help
diadennyx says:
May 31, 2012 at 11:55 am (UTC 0)
ikr
YvonneWacha says:
May 31, 2012 at 12:32 pm (UTC 0)
lol this woman is babbling! please get to the bloody point!!!!!
eformationqueen says:
May 31, 2012 at 1:07 pm (UTC 0)
Are you serious or joking? If not, can you elaborate so I don’t feel guilty? I say that because this was not the goal of the video. Be blessed anyway!
diadennyx says:
May 31, 2012 at 1:33 pm (UTC 0)
this vid made me get a devorce
eformationqueen says:
May 31, 2012 at 2:17 pm (UTC 0)
Hey, thanks so much! I really appreciate that! God bless you too!
gabrielandtweetee says:
May 31, 2012 at 2:54 pm (UTC 0)
Men watch and agree with you, too!
And this one is working on his second and last marriage… God bless you and your ministry….:)
eformationqueen says:
May 31, 2012 at 3:12 pm (UTC 0)
Hey, thanks so much! I appreciate that, and you are quite welcome! Happy New Year!
ywait0609 says:
May 31, 2012 at 3:54 pm (UTC 0)
this vid is sooo cute! thannks for all the advice!
gunnz021 says:
May 31, 2012 at 4:17 pm (UTC 0)
Thanks, u too!
eformationqueen says:
May 31, 2012 at 4:40 pm (UTC 0)
Maybe show her some of the scenes you are thinking of until you both can laugh about them. My husband referred to the scene from a Friday the 13th movie (Jason Takes Manhattan?) today, the one where the boxer told Jason to take his best shot after punching him till his fists were bloody, and Jason knocked his head off. It rolled into the trash can, and the top slammed shut, which cracked me up. My hubby said he thinks of that sometimes when I am running my mouth too much! 🙂 LOL!
eformationqueen says:
May 31, 2012 at 5:16 pm (UTC 0)
Hey, that is wonderful to hear! My husband and I laugh so much, and it is a blessing. Today, he was giving me advice, and I had a headache and really didn’t feel like hearing it — in fact, in my mind, I was thinking, “Please shut up.” Then, I told him, now I know how you feel — you must want to tell me to shut up a lot. He rolled his eyes and said, “Multiply that times 1 million!” We started cracking up, and then had a great date. So keep laughter in the act! God Bless!
eformationqueen says:
May 31, 2012 at 6:12 pm (UTC 0)
What???? Men are watching my videos? OMG, I’d better stop talking as if only women are listening then! 🙂 I am so glad to hear that the videos have been of help to you. This is really the type of advice my husband and I implement on a daily basis to get through the difficult patches. Marriage is WORK, but it is so worth it! Hang in there, and thanks for sharing! Also, Happy New Year!
gunnz021 says:
May 31, 2012 at 6:20 pm (UTC 0)
U have def given me a more positive approach to those otherwise frustrating moments in marriage. I will use this tool in addition w/ the other vids u have. Thanks!
gunnz021 says:
May 31, 2012 at 6:52 pm (UTC 0)
thanks. I’ve been finding things to laugh about now thanks to this vid. I tend to get very frustrated over things similar to what u’ve mentioned, but i think that i’ve found a new approach to prevent me from dwelling on them. Thanks again.
eformationqueen says:
May 31, 2012 at 7:28 pm (UTC 0)
Funny, but once you use the phrases enough, she will remember at least one or two of them. If not, try to find some other common area that you can connect and laugh about. 🙂
gunnz021 says:
May 31, 2012 at 7:40 pm (UTC 0)
the movie phrase would be cool w/ me and mine, but she never remembers the movie. LOL
eformationqueen says:
May 31, 2012 at 8:31 pm (UTC 0)
It’s funny you say that, my latest book “Secrets of a Skinny Jean Queen” touches on some of this. Writing a book takes so much time and energy, and doing these videos has made me so lazy! Maybe I will have someone compile the transcripts and I can just fill in the gaps! 🙂 Thanks for the really positive comments!
sasilver1 says:
May 31, 2012 at 8:46 pm (UTC 0)
You need to write a book. This is top notch advice. Great job!
eformationqueen says:
May 31, 2012 at 9:45 pm (UTC 0)
Thanks LittleMissLeslie! I am glad you found it helpful! Take Care!
LittleMissLeslie101 says:
May 31, 2012 at 10:45 pm (UTC 0)
you give really great advice! Thank you.
eformationqueen says:
May 31, 2012 at 11:10 pm (UTC 0)
Hey, thanks so much I am so glad. Who knew people like rambling??? Also, thanks for the compliment and for stopping by! Have a great one!
nova264 says:
May 31, 2012 at 11:13 pm (UTC 0)
carolyn ,i love ,love your videos and your’e cute.
tanyatmr says:
June 1, 2012 at 12:12 am (UTC 0)
Although I’m not married, I learned during my separation from my boyfriend you have to talk to men in a way that doesn’t make them feel as if you’re talking down to them. It used to be hard dealing with each other considering neither one of us have any siblings; we’re both stubborn & spoiled by our mothers. I used to get mad with him about coming to my house late all the time, but when I had time to think, I reminded myself he has 2 jobs he could’ve stayed home & went to bed.
berealmuslims says:
June 1, 2012 at 12:33 am (UTC 0)
LOL, this is sooooo true!! Mashallah, may Allah reward u!
ThisWorldABitch says:
June 1, 2012 at 1:14 am (UTC 0)
MAN U R SO FREAKING TRUE
kayne58 says:
June 1, 2012 at 1:34 am (UTC 0)
Anytime man, let me know of anything you wish to know, i’m happy to answer any of your questions.. even though i’m still a bit of a question asker myself!
as i once heard; ‘Listening is the gateway to learning, but understanding truly comes with teaching’
julio14335 says:
June 1, 2012 at 2:33 am (UTC 0)
Walah Baba is doing a wonderful job…I believe his account is getting full with good deeds and good dawah.Jazakalah kaira….///
Ahmed678ification says:
June 1, 2012 at 3:25 am (UTC 0)
36 men didn’t listen to this video
LionOfAllah100 says:
June 1, 2012 at 4:00 am (UTC 0)
May Allah bless u Baba, i use ur videos on my mum spouse EST loool
PanjsheriiGak says:
June 1, 2012 at 4:40 am (UTC 0)
HAHAH omg, that’s so true… :$
enotstehw says:
June 1, 2012 at 5:23 am (UTC 0)
Thanks for explaining a little on the requirements to me. I have many questions? And most of the people that I come to contact on the net do not have time to answer my questions.
missyuna06 says:
June 1, 2012 at 5:53 am (UTC 0)
lol, that’s because you can’t stand these very obvious facts that has been put forward to u and again you don’t come with any proofs, any reference or any good academical explanations and responses to things I have mentioned to you and have no idea how to defend your arguments properly, so therefor u aren’t that smart to say at least and quite stubborn as well.
I will say this again so that u may understand it, and please take this as an advice for your own good.–> Go to school and read books.
olmecbones says:
June 1, 2012 at 6:31 am (UTC 0)
You speak like you live in the magical 11th century.
Check out this website.
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Mohamad was a pedophile no matter what century it is, 9 years old is 9 years old and you sick fuckers suck on his every violent word.
Cheers from New Zealand, faggot.
missyuna06 says:
June 1, 2012 at 7:16 am (UTC 0)
that’s why ones one study religion and specially Islam, one will see how much sense that gives in prior to these difficult themes and situation which secular system cannot solve.
missyuna06 says:
June 1, 2012 at 7:29 am (UTC 0)
at the same time, they always end up in a dilemma they cannot solve. If Hitler was still around and did kill 6 million jews, and if he were to put in a trial, you will see that the system in secular states are quite weak since they aim for human rights, and therefor cannot decide if the person should get punished or not. So in other words, the West and Secular system have pretty much destroyed these important matters and have led the world into chaos and disorder.
missyuna06 says:
June 1, 2012 at 8:20 am (UTC 0)
Don’t be so sure on that, in fact this life is meant as a test for each and every so we as muslims must learn how to go through these obstacles, and at the same time we are given free will to choose whether to do good or bad and of course many muslims, even christains and jews aims to do the good, so in fact if you look at the secularism and western governments you will see that they have no basic ways on how to teach moral and values and can’t make distinction between whats good and bad
olmecbones says:
June 1, 2012 at 8:32 am (UTC 0)
Well then, allah is sure doing a great job of taking care of muslims and all their interests and all their countries and is really showing all those muslims the right way.
That’s ‘great’ religion you got there but what’s more amazing how the secularists and the Western government can so easily PWN allahs interests and all his people and all their land… It’s like he’s completely weak and worthless.
missyuna06 says:
June 1, 2012 at 9:10 am (UTC 0)
What u c today has nothing 2 do with Islam so one begins to wonder why and how exaclty. These beheadings,bombings and so on are NOT acceptable in Islam and all these type of violent acts are extremly forbidden and those who commits this will receive a severe punishment. Again, u have 2 go study and c my reasons for telling this cause I can tell based on your comments that u have not a single clue on Islam and therefor needs education in that but like u said yourself, u refuse but thats your loss
missyuna06 says:
June 1, 2012 at 10:01 am (UTC 0)
lol you don’t get it yet, and even when I mentioned all the incidents from WW1, WW2 and etc and the bombing in Oklahoma in 90’s and YET you overlook these very facts and still points finger at muslims for EVERYTHING. Like I mentioned from my previous comments, there is NO Caliphats in World today for 80 years and no country follows Islam as it should be. In fact, you can thank the secularists and western governments and politicians and warleaders for changing the way it is in ME today
olmecbones says:
June 1, 2012 at 10:13 am (UTC 0)
Now I understand. What you’re saying is that because there’s bad people in other religions then it’s OK for there to be bad people in your religion.
No.
Yours is the worst. The most bombings, beheadings and terrorist attacks in the last thirty years have been done by muslims.
Those other religions you mention have very much adapted to fit the changing world, not yours.
Yours is the most archaic, violent way of life in existence.
Just look how far behind and backward your countries are.
missyuna06 says:
June 1, 2012 at 10:17 am (UTC 0)
lol, shall I then use Anders B Breivik as an example since he claims that he did the massacre for HIS religion, in the name of his Lord and his religion, Christianity according to his manifesto and used that to justify his killings on 77 young innocent people.
See again? You’re tactic keeps getting backfired, so why don’t you just start realizing that there are bad/good muslims,christianins,jews, buddhist,ateists etc and etc? This is the reality that you have to learn to look and not overlook.
olmecbones says:
June 1, 2012 at 10:24 am (UTC 0)
That soldier didn’t kill in the name of any religion.
But here are some muslims beheading a reporter in the name of YOUR islamic religion.
h t t p : / / w w w . wretch . cc/video/f0806449k&func=single&vid=5836976
missyuna06 says:
June 1, 2012 at 10:36 am (UTC 0)
lol, shall I show you videos of EVERY crimes that has been committed by secular people, like when an american soldier came killed off 17 civilians watch?v=f6EWmR4frDc&feature=related
See? your tactic does not really work and you should use your mind that there are good people as they are bad people, regardless what background they have. You should understand that, and sane people will see this is not bullshit.
olmecbones says:
June 1, 2012 at 11:08 am (UTC 0)
Here’s a video of muslims beheading a mans girlfriend in front of her because he and she would not convert to islam.
h t t p : / / tinyurl(dot)com/25swjyk
I have plenty of videos of muslims killing people in the name of your religion.
olmecbones says:
June 1, 2012 at 11:41 am (UTC 0)
You said you would show me a video so quit talking shit and show me.
Here’s some muslims beheading Russians.
h t t p : / / w w w . liveleak . c o m/view?i=d13_1177225006
missyuna06 says:
June 1, 2012 at 12:37 pm (UTC 0)
“I can point many…”
missyuna06 says:
June 1, 2012 at 1:30 pm (UTC 0)
According to ‘Encyclopedia of Wars’, there were 1763 wars overall, of which 123 (7%) have been classified to involve a religious conflict.
So any respons to that?, or shall we say even and deal with the fact that there are bad people in many different sects, whether they’re muslims or not
missyuna06 says:
June 1, 2012 at 1:42 pm (UTC 0)
lol where do I even need to begin XD?Tom mention secular violence, Icantpoint many of them to you:World War I, World War II, many civil wars (American, El Salvador, Russia, Sri Lanka, China etc.), revolutionary wars (American, French, Russian, etc.), Vietnam War, Korean War, War on Terrorism, and common conflicts such as gang and drug wars (e.g. Mexican Drug War)…