When people are struggling in their marriage they can be willing to try almost anything to fix the marriage. Well, let me rephrase that. Sometimes one spouse is willing to do almost anything to fix the marriage while the other spouse is willing to do almost nothing. And hence one of the major limitations of traditional marriage counseling – it requires the participation of both spouses.

So if you are having marital conflict or if your marriage is simply withering away from neglect and your partner is unmotivated to help you work on it, is your marriage destined to end in divorce? Not necessarily! There are a wealth of resources available to help you improve the quality of your relationship. Many of these resources are readily available on the internet.

What Kind of Resources Are Available?

For anyone reluctant to speak to their friends or family about their relationship issues, on line forums are not only free, but can provide a relatively safe support system. When you are struggling with marital problems you can feel isolated, alone and trapped. On line chat and the support of people in a similar situation an help with this. But sometimes the support offered by forums boils down to not too much more than people being sympathetic. While this is good, it is just a form of “admiring your problem” and it’s not going to do much in the way of helping you improve your situation. The kind of resources that can be a big help are on line books and courses. Many sites offer free courses with the hope of selling you a book later on. Take advantage of the free advice! A lot of it is really good. Beyond that on line marriage advice can range from books to on line coaching. Products are available that can fit every budget.

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What are the Advantages of Using Internet Based Marriage Resources?

On line marriage advice can have the following advantages. First, many of them are free. Those you chose to pay for are likely to be way less expensive than traditional counseling.  As many of these take the form of books or courses to download they are immediately available. There can be the added advantage of no books or “evidence” laying around the house for your spouse or children to stumble across. Working on self help marriage resources is much less time consuming and convenient having to go to weekly counseling sessions.

Safety First!

If your spouse is abusive, a chronic cheater or in the grips of serious addiction problems you must immediately get professional help. While the internet can provide lots of free information and resources for you, you are not going to be equipped to deal with these serious situations alone. However, these types of situations are not the reason for the majority of divorces. Most marriages deteriorate over time through many smaller issues, lack of connection and in these cases YOU can make a huge impact on your marriage even if you are the only one willing to work on it.

Can On Line Marriage Advice Really Help?

Recognize that you are 50% of the marriage. The reality is you cannot change the behavior of another person. You can however alter your own thoughts, words and actions this can transform the tone of your marriage. This will be the first step in reconnecting with your spouse. Most traditional marriage counseling focuses on improving communication in relationships. But what is killing most marriages is not lack of sharing information (communication) but lack of connection (caring about what is being said!). Many on line marriage courses focus on solid strategies on how to reconnect with your spouse, not how to dredge up past grievances.

How To Select The Best On Line Marriage Advice Resources

Let’s face it, the internet is full of people looking to make a quick buck. Unfortunately, people who are going through a marriage or any type of crisis are particularly vulnerable to “quick fix” promises. Be sure to be selective when picking any type of product or course to purchase. Make sure the vendor provides a 100% money back guarantee. What are the credentials of the author? Stick with well published and reputable authors. Anyone who has been prominent in the media (appeared on Oprah, news shows, published in national media etc.) should be pretty safe.